The elusive white rabbit 🐇 synonymous with the things in life that we’re always chasing, never being satisfied in the moment with what is- always wanting more… time, money, information, toys, gadgets, friends, fans, you name it. If it’s there, we want more of it. I’m not saying that having desire is wrong by any means, I’d be a complete hypocrite because I’m a lover of beautiful things and very much a consumer myself. We should want things and want better in our lives! The point here is that there must be a balance and sometimes, what’s needed most, is simply presence and radical acceptance with what is in order to lessen the emotional suffering of whatever we perceive we’re missing.

That doesn’t sound pretty, fun or even possible to do at times, but I assure you, the more you practice, like with anything, the easier it becomes. This is where we’re able to find peace and balance or better yet, equilibrium, because balance, like a see saw, is a constant dance. Back to the point, with the practice of presence comes patience, compassion and a deeper understanding of the nature of things, including ourselves. How does one go about being present with what is when the circumstances are not ideal or are emotionally painful you might ask? 

Firstly, please note, if you are in a dangerous or compromising situation where your well being is at risk, do not just stay in that situation! This is where discernment comes in.

Please see the disclaimer at the end of this article for further guidance.

With any challenging situation, you have to ask yourself questions to assess what your response should be: “Am I safe?, Is my life or anyone else’s here at risk in this moment?, Does this call for emergency intervention? Will this cause permanent damage to myself, environment or anyone else in the situation? Is this what anyone else would call abuse, physical or otherwise?  If your honest answer Is “No” to these questions, then this may be a case where you would do well to take some nice, deep, centering breaths and ask yourself why you are feeling so triggered and why this kind of situation was magnetized to you. I know that the statement itself is likely triggering, but it’s here that we find the answers to our own biggest conundrums and most elusive answers to questions such as, “Why do I always attract people like this? Why am I finding myself in this situation AGAIN? Why do these problems always find ME?”  While they are irritating and may be the cause of great anger at times, they are just that- irritations, like a gnat that just won’t go away! But they serve a purpose, just like that gnat has every right to live out its tiny, brief little life, we are given the opportunity to “check ourselves” and come to an understanding of what brought us to this point and what we can do to dampen and ultimately eradicate the impact it has on us! 

Trigger warning once again… Because at the root of this lies something that remains unhealed within you (yes, YOU) and subconsciously / unconsciously, your energy field is magnetizing it to you in order for you to see it and heal it. That’s the very hard truth of it all and believe me, I know this is a tough pill 💊 to swallow, as I’ve taken a metaphorical bottle of my own to date! I wish I could add some sweetness to make it easier for us, believe me! Here’s where our practice in presence comes in. We know that change isn’t always easy, but in order to progress, it’s necessary. These challenges are our greatest opportunity for growth and mastery of ourselves which makes us like walking gods or ascended masters if we truly can master this state to rise above the circumstances, petty behaviors of others or (dare I say foes🤫) in the moment. Whether it’s debtors breathing down our necks, a neighbor who incessantly irritates, the boss who’s jealous of you and doesn’t give you credit due; the partner who always makes things harder than is necessary…the list is endless, as are the circumstances we can find ourselves in if we don’t seek out the root of the problem. 

Energy is cyclical, as are the patterns and habits that bring about the circumstances that we least enjoy! We see this in astrology- cycles and patterns always reemerge in time. Sometimes it brings about beautiful, fortunate gifts and sometimes it’s like a nightmarish merry-go-round that we can’t seem to exit unless we do the healing work. This doesn’t mean numbing agents such as weed or alcohol or distractions like social media, dating apps and retail therapy. It means sitting with ourselves- or going for a contemplative walk, and asking ourselves the questions that will inevitably get to the root of the problem.

Follow the rabbit down deep into his (w)hole, layer by layer, tunnel after tunnel until you reach the core of it all. There in the den where you were feeling warm and safe until… what was that memory which first affected you and shook you to the core? How old were you and what happened? Many can remember this like yesterday, but others may find it more hazy and obscure, only pulling out bits and pieces of it, yet, the knowing is there. What help or advice would you give to that saddened version of yourself and how would you comfort them coming from your future self and knowing how much you’ve come through to get to where you are today? What self assurances would you give? If the situation involves others in a substantial way, are you able to see them at the same place where they were first hurt and their core wound was created? Can you find compassion for them in their traumatized state before their wounding shaped them? I’ve done it. I saw myself and the others involved as children, sometimes of the same age and sometimes as the future or current version of myself coming to them with the wisdom I’ve gained. Every situation will be different and may call for different actions, but at the very least, if you can give those sweet, innocent and trusting children the love that they needed at that time just by giving them a hug in this vision, you are, in essence, not only healing yourself, in future and past timelines, but also helping to heal that person or those people as well. Sometimes once is all it takes, sometimes you need to do it several times until you feel it’s cleared and it no longer has an emotional impact on you.

I’ve seen what feels like a miraculous shift in people who I thought would never change after doing this practice! However, we’re not doing this to change others, that’s just a bonus of doing the work on ourselves which gives us a newfound freedom and confidence over such circumstances. It’s liberation at its best and it’s worth it. I’m finding new challenges to rise above all the time. Though some things are harder earned, if you dedicate yourself to being the solution and not contributing to the problem, soon, you’ll find that it’s no longer “a thing” and you can go about your merry way spreading your magical charm to all! That’s what makes us sparkling stars ✨ reflecting our light onto the metaphorical sea of stones waiting to be polished themselves.

Til next month,

Shine ✨ like the star you are!

Your TK Family 💋 🌙 ✨

Disclaimer:

Always remember that your safety and well-being are of utmost importance. If you ever find yourself in a situation where you feel unsure or threatened, don't hesitate to reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals for support.

During a challenging time, it's important to evaluate your safety and well-being. Here are some questions to ask yourself to assess whether you might be in danger:

1. Am I in immediate physical danger or in an unsafe environment?

2. Do I have access to basic necessities such as food, water, shelter, and healthcare?

3. Are my emotional and psychological needs being met, or am I experiencing severe distress or mental health challenges?

4. Are my personal boundaries being respected, or am I exposed to harmful or abusive behaviors?

5. Do I have a supportive network or resources I can rely on, or am I facing this challenging time alone?

6. Do I feel safe expressing my concerns and feelings, or am I being silenced or dismissed?

7. Are my actions or the actions of others leading to potential harm or negative consequences?

8. Are there any red flags or warning signs indicating an escalation in danger?

9. Do I have a plan or resources to seek help if the situation worsens?

10. Am I or others around me engaging in risky or dangerous behaviors that could cause harm?

Answering these questions can help you better understand your current situation and determine if you need to take further steps to protect yourself or seek help. Remember, it's always better to err on the side of caution when it comes to personal safety and well-being.